Dear Starchild,
At our SMART Recovery meetings we teach concepts and tools useful for either abstinence or moderation. Each individual decides for himself which is preferable. (We also give guidelines for making this decision.)
Our meetings are open to the community, there is no charge, and anyone can attend. Please consider joining us. See SMART in action!
Meeting list: www.ThreeMinuteTherapy.com/SMART.html
Best, Michael