In a later topic ("Op-Ed Piece: 'SFPD Body Cameras: Devils In The Details'"), Starchild wrote: " I stopped responding to Mitch in the other thread about sex work -- the tone was getting too personal and nasty."
Perhaps so -- but who turned to personal invective? Starchild wrote,
"'Luring out of the trade' -- now who is talking about being an imposter, lol!... Some prostitutes with whom I've spoken would probably not see a client who expressed such an intention up front, as it would make them feel uncomfortable, and/or they would be concerned the person wouldn't respect their boundaries."
I responded,
"'Luring' was obviously a bad choice of words -- particularly since it can be taken (as you were quick to pounce on it) to imply some manner of subterfuge or deceit, which is not the case. It's more like 'You can lead a horse to water' -- only to find the Chamber of Affection-as-Commerce warning, 'Don't drink from there; it's bad for business.' All the hokey incense and candles in the world don't make for the sort of encounter I'm seeking; they're (all-too-obviously) mere props for a performance.... You keep your candles, and I'll keep my money. I have nothing more to say to the Chamber of Affection-as-Commerce. It's my fondest hope that I'll find myself -- better still, arm-in-arm with a lover -- walking off into the sunset, finally turning around and declaring, 'We don't need your steenking boundaries!'"
That's the last we heard from Starchild in that discussion (other than his declaring his support for landlords, among "legitimate professions" -- lol. I therefore assume he was objecting to what I wrote, as quoted above.
Starting with my BAR op-ed (which Starchild acknowledged as civil), my overall point was that the marketing of affection is the great-granddaddy of all shuck-and-jive routines, and that in that context, "professional boundaries" constitute the last refuge of a scoundrel.
That criticism seems utterly reasonable and civil (whether or not one agrees with it) -- and not really personal (let alone nasty) at all, given that I was taking Starchild to task for his support of scoundrels, not for being one himself.
The criticism may nonetheless have struck a little too close to home -- but no personal offense was intended.